Before we start we need to consider that different genders climax at different rates. There are a lot of biological mechanisms going off here so look at this anecdotally at best.
There are a lot of articles out there about this. When it comes to sex it seems like every tabloid magazine has an expert writing about how to please your partner. But I'm hoping these research studies can clear some sexual myths up.
Some reports have shown that some woman take an average of 20 minutes to orgasm (Hite, 2004). However, things get complicated with men taking an average of 10 minutes (and that's being generous).
Now individual differences vary. Technically both sexes can have an orgasm within 30 seconds. But women have the advantage of being able to have multiple orgasms in a shorter time frame than men (Heart, 2013).
Now things don't change much even in regards to sexual orientation. In a study conducted by Mark et al (2015) all of the participants ( Lgbtq and heterosexual) reported that having an emotional connection was correlated to sexual satisfaction.
So the average times don't matter as much as your connection to your partner. This goes to show that communication is an important element to both of you being happy in bed.
After all how can you form an emotional connection, if you don't communicate your sexual and emotional needs to each other?
This is more important than average times of orgasm because it doesn't matter when it happens.As long as it happens for both if you.
As always if you're having problems with this consult with your doctor first. Biological issues are much faster to deal with than psychological ones.
But if it is psychological, there are plenty of therapists trained in helping couples with these issues.
Social Gelo with Angelo
Angelo Ferrer ( M.S. Psychology)
Hite, S. (2004). The Hite report: A nationwide study of female sexuality. Seven Stories Press.
Heart, M. (2013). The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women: How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime. Cleis Press.
Mark, K. P., Garcia, J. R., & Fisher, H. E. (2015). Perceived emotional and sexual satisfaction across sexual relationship contexts: Gender and sexual orientation differences and similarities. The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality, 24(2), 120-130.